The Cheating Game

Recently, I had a discussion with a friend regarding infidelity and if physically cheating was just as morally wrong as having a vivid fantasy about other women during sex. My objective opinion was that if you were able to have sex with someone with no strings attached in say Las Vegas, never see that person again, and then never tell your spouse about it, how is that so far and beyond actually creating a sexual reality inside your mind. Just because you don’t actually act on a desire that doesn’t necessarily make you any more innocent then the next guy who does carry out his intention. The guy that does go through with the nasty probably was strongly propositioned with the advancement and/or not worried about the consequences. (The consequence usually being that you are caught by your significant other, hurting them immensely and probably causing ire by all those around you.) Or just maybe you don’t due to Religious Obligation...

Let’s just say though, that there is this beautiful receptionist at work, and all day you think about pounding the shit out her. You literally put yourself in that place and the day dream is so real that it might have been a long lost memory. Then you go home that night and tell your better half, “Hey, all day I was just thinking about fucking the shit out of this gorgeous blond.” Then you proceed to give extremely graphic details about the incident and so on and so forth. Obviously she would be heartbroken, and I would go as far to say she would more hurt that you put so much effort into telling a sexual anecdote that would blow the shit out of any tacky Fabio romance novel.

The point I guess I’m trying to make is cheating is just something society created. Whether you really commit the sin or make the x-rated movie in your head, you’re still just as guilty as the sinner. I don’t condone actually going behind your lovers back and strapping on the Jimmy with the next available harlot, but what I am saying is that there is a blurred line between what you’re intentions are and what you believe. Don’t think for a moment just because you haven’t betrayed them, that makes you morally righteous.


On a side note: This doesn’t apply to thinking about murder or pedophilia, because not only are they regulated by laws and regulations, but I can assure that most people don’t really enjoy mutilating people. Sexual desire I think we can agree is something that is felt by all humans at some point. I also believe this only applies to men, because women appear to be hot-wired in some other way, I could be wrong though, but since I’m a guy I can only base this theory on my own experiences.